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Overcoming the loneliness of change: how Justin found connection during life transitions
Dark nights of the soul are horrible.
And needed.
Justin Oberste MA, AMFT
Oct 7, 20219 min read
2021: Your year of authentic connection - third progress check
How is your year of authentic connection going? Let's check in and find out.
Phil McAuliffe
Sep 23, 20215 min read
The loneliness of being gay in a straight marriage
To be a gay man in a straight marriage is to be disconnected from self.
Andrew Reid
Sep 9, 202110 min read
The pros and cons of using hook-up apps for finding connection
Best advice I’ve ever received about hook-up apps: ‘You will get fucked’
Phil McAuliffe
Aug 26, 20217 min read
Why your cracks are sexy
Yes, male asses are beautiful. So is kintsugi.
Phil McAuliffe
Aug 12, 20214 min read
The ultimate guide on finding your Prince Charming and living happily ever after
Waiting for your Prince Charming to save you from your loneliness? Wait no more!
Phil McAuliffe
Jul 29, 20214 min read
2021: Your year of authentic connection - second progress check
Let's check in to see how your year of authentic connection is going.
Phil McAuliffe
Jul 15, 20215 min read
2021 – Your year of authentic connection: first progress check
How is your year of authentic connection progressing?
Phil McAuliffe
Mar 4, 20214 min read
Finding comfort in shedding the labels you wear: Nathan's story will inspire you
What labels are you letting define you?
Nathan Todd
Feb 18, 20216 min read
The power of vulnerability: Why Reno says it's important to expose yourself to others
'I may destroy me' - Compassionate self-exposure as the path to personal freedom.
Reno
Feb 4, 20218 min read
How I build strong connections on a tight budget
Why does the gay lifestyle cost so much money?
Phil McAuliffe
Jan 21, 20215 min read
2021 - Your year of authentic connection
Let’s make 2021 your year of authentic connection
Phil McAuliffe
Jan 7, 20217 min read
The gift of loneliness: the powerful reframe that feeds connection
Is it time to open the gift of your loneliness this Christmas?
Phil McAuliffe
Dec 10, 20206 min read
The importance of true friendship in life for gay men.
We know that friendship is important, but what makes a friendship?
Phil McAuliffe
Nov 26, 20208 min read
Discovering the true you: unpacking the question "Who Are You?"
If putting yourself out into the world is the cure to loneliness, who are you?
Phil McAuliffe
Nov 12, 20206 min read
The link between shame and loneliness: how I broke the cycle
Shame begets loneliness. Loneliness begets shame. Let’s turn our shame into our ally.
Phil McAuliffe
Oct 29, 202013 min read
How to speak your loneliness story
Don’t know how to speak about your loneliness?
I’ve got your back.
Phil McAuliffe
Oct 15, 20209 min read
Comparisons CAN bring joy
Comparison can be the thief of joy, but it can also bring curiosity, connection and community.
Jesse Elkins
Oct 1, 20209 min read
Connection and casual sex: pros and cons
Can we gay men use casual sex as a means of connection?
Michael DiIorio
Sep 23, 20208 min read
What type of gay am I?
I know what type of gay I am. How about you?
Phil McAuliffe
Jun 24, 20205 min read
So, you're lonely and gay. What's next?
You've realised that you’re lonely. What do you do next?
Phil McAuliffe
Jun 11, 20206 min read
The stigma of loneliness
By even talking about loneliness we risk outing ourselves as being a person who is of no worth. No wonder there's a stigma.
Phil McAuliffe
May 27, 20207 min read
Why is asking for help so hard?
Let's explore why I can feel like a failure if I ask for help. Why do I fear judgement and rejection?
Phil McAuliffe
May 14, 20207 min read
Celebrating authenticity: embracing your coming out story
There is such power in our coming out stories. Do you own yours or does it own you?
Phil McAuliffe
May 4, 20206 min read
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