Breaking the stigma: navigating loneliness and learning to thrive
Times of change are when we most feel lonely. This includes me.
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THE LONELINESS GUY
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Read one, some or binge-read all of the 50+ articles written by Phil and guests to help you feel connected as a gay man.
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Craig Watson
- Mar 4, 2023
- 9 min
Finding my place: how Craig navigates life as a Christian and gay man
Is there a bigger source of loneliness-inducing trauma in our community than religious trauma? This is Craig's story.
607 views
Phil McAuliffe
- Feb 4, 2023
- 8 min
The lonely side of gay: the 5 symptoms you shouldn't ignore
I see 5 common symptoms of gay loneliness.
Do you have any of them?
606 views
Phil McAuliffe
- Nov 24, 2022
- 10 min
Am I Gay Enough? Exploring the complexities of identity, acceptance and belonging
I've been struggling with this question for a while. I know you have been, too.
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Phil McAuliffe
- Oct 13, 2022
- 7 min
The Hairy Truth: discovering lessons in regrowing my body hair
I regrew my body hair for the first time in over 20 years. This is what I learned.
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Ed Wilson
- Sep 22, 2022
- 6 min
The importance of being open to connection in preventing loneliness: Ed's story
'We take life too seriously. We forget how weak, needy and broken we are.'
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Craig Cassey
- Sep 1, 2022
- 7 min
The high cost of success: exploring Craig's loneliness
Does success bring loneliness? For Craig, loneliness is a choice, an illusion and a friendly reminder
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Jesse Elkins
- Jul 21, 2022
- 10 min
Confessions of a social chameleon: how Jesse unintentionally fed his loneliness
We must speak and share our loneliness stories if we're to
de-stigmatise gay loneliness. Here's Jesse's story.
283 views
Phil McAuliffe
- Jun 9, 2022
- 6 min
The dark side of Pride: exploring the loneliness of Pride
June is Pride month. Being gay isn't all rainbows and unicorns, is it?
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Phil McAuliffe
- May 19, 2022
- 7 min
When hitting rock bottom becomes the foundation for a better you.
Hitting rock bottom is messy.
Rock bottom is a source of authentic connection.
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Phil McAuliffe
- Apr 7, 2022
- 9 min
The connection between being gay, negative body image and feelings of loneliness
You’re sexy and your loneliness hopes you don't know it
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Phil McAuliffe
- Mar 17, 2022
- 8 min
Is busyness damaging your relationships? Prioritising connection in a busy world
Soul-nourishing connection requires
authentic vulnerability, time and space. Your busyness is killing the connection you need.
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Phil McAuliffe
- Feb 17, 2022
- 5 min
The power of letting go: why holding on is holding you back
How does your emotional baggage stop you connecting?
Do you need to be like Elsa and just let it go?
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Phil McAuliffe
- Feb 3, 2022
- 6 min
My theme for 2022: Let it happen
I love a good plan, but trusting in it and ‘letting it happen’ is a real challenge for me.
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Phil McAuliffe
- Dec 16, 2021
- 5 min
Wrapping up 2021
How has your year of authentic connection been?
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Phil McAuliffe
- Nov 18, 2021
- 11 min
The art of finding true belonging as a gay man in the midst of loneliness
When you feel that you belong, you feel connected. When you don’t, you can feel lonely. Let me share my experience.
299 views
Phil McAuliffe
- Nov 4, 2021
- 8 min
The Ultimate Guide to Making Friends as a Gay Man
Making friends is tough. Let me help you with that.
2,731 views
Kevin Moran
- Oct 21, 2021
- 9 min
How to have kick-ass boundaries
Getting our boundaries right is fucking hard when we're lonely. But they are such a profound gift of self-respect back to ourselves.
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Justin Oberste MA, AMFT
- Oct 7, 2021
- 9 min
Overcoming the loneliness of change: how Justin found connection during life transitions
Dark nights of the soul are horrible.
And needed.
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Phil McAuliffe
- Sep 23, 2021
- 5 min
2021: Your year of authentic connection - third progress check
How is your year of authentic connection going? Let's check in and find out.
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