Our lonely minds and souls would like us to believe that we're the only gay man who's living with chronic loneliness. Of course, it's not true.
I'm deeply grateful for the kind words shared with me about my work from men in my audience.
It reminds me that we're never alone when we experience loneliness.
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'I first stumbled upon Phil’s work (The Loneliness Guy) in the middle of #lockdown1 which, coincidentally, was also a period in my life where I was beginning to explore podcasts and engage in much inner work, encountering daily emotional epiphanies.
Boy, am I glad I found this man.
With some lockdown emotional epiphanies realised, I still had a gnawing feeling in my tummy which I have had for many years. I couldn’t quite diagnose until I listened to my very first Loneliness Guy podcast and realised that the undiagnosed feeling in my tummy (and the reason I was escaping to apps and other detrimental activities) was due to sheer loneliness.
Through Phil’s work alone, I have been able to realise my loneliness and, most importantly, say it out loud to myself and to the people who matter in my life - a major stepping stone in self-acceptance and self-discovery which has helped me to lead a more authentic life where I understand more what I as a human truly need.
Phil’s work is fascinating, insightful, empathetic, intelligent, brave and brutally fucking honest! His podcasts - Connection Over Coffee - are wonderfully quirky in the sense that I actually feel like I am sitting opposite him and his guests in a real coffee shop, listening intently and sharing a laugh with friends!
As we enter a second lockdown here in London, I look forward to more of Phil’s massively supportive work and to joining his new weekly video chat support group for us brave, lonely, wonderful dudes out there. If you can relate to anything I have written here, I highly recommend you join us and share YOUR loneliness story with an amazing bunch of people.
Stay funky and authentically YOU!'
G., London UK
Received 9 November 2020
'How great is it that there is someone in the world who is as dedicated to de-stigmatizing loneliness as Phil McAuliffe. I work primarily with gay men and one thing that is universal whether they are 18 or 65 is that they feel lonely. And on top of it, it’s hard for them to say it. When I came across Phil’s work, I was relieved. Not only was there a resource that I could draw from personally, but there was a man with a virtual space dedicated to inspiring authentic connection within themselves, their loved ones, and their communities.
I consider Phil the expert on this topic and from our chats, I know that his wisdom comes from his very real experience of it. He lives and breathes his work and it shows.
It is of tremendous value to the world that TLG Community exists because it is through connection that the weight of loneliness begins to subside. Thank you Phil for allowing me to share my own loneliness story. I have always felt safe and welcome in your (virtual) presence.
Keep being you, the world needs you.'
- Michael DiIorio
Received 14 November 2020
'You are putting such light and hope out into the world.'
- Received 26 August 2020
'Thank you for what you do!'
- Received 14 November 2020
'I enjoy your content and it's so forward and taboo-breaking for men. Especially gay men.'
-Received 7 November 2020
'I love your podcasts and can I just say what you're doing nobody else is doing. And that's important. Your video helped me see something from another perspective... about social media and comparison and how we compare ourselves to everyone's curated pages when that's not the reality for them.'
- Received 18 October 2020