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Read one, some or binge-read all of the 50+ articles written by Phil and guests to help you feel connected as a gay man.
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Breaking the stigma: navigating loneliness and learning to thrive
Times of change are when we most feel lonely. This includes me.
Phil McAuliffe
Apr 1, 20237 min read
138 views
Finding my place: how Craig navigates life as a Christian and gay man
Is there a bigger source of loneliness-inducing trauma in our community than religious trauma? This is Craig's story.
Craig Watson
Mar 4, 20239 min read
834 views
The lonely side of gay: the 5 symptoms you shouldn't ignore
I see 5 common symptoms of gay loneliness.
Do you have any of them?
Phil McAuliffe
Feb 4, 20238 min read
1,361 views
Navigating the Holidays: strategies for surviving the festive season
This time of year can be tough.
Your loneliness loves to spoil your joy.
Let's get you through this season.
Phil McAuliffe
Dec 15, 20227 min read
59 views
Am I Gay Enough? Exploring the complexities of identity, acceptance and belonging
I've been struggling with this question for a while. I know you have been, too.
Phil McAuliffe
Nov 24, 202210 min read
229 views
The impact of bad design on social connection: can it really make you lonely?
I’m curious: what if the loneliness you’re feeling is a response to bad building design?
Phil McAuliffe
Nov 3, 20225 min read
70 views
The Hairy Truth: discovering lessons in regrowing my body hair
I regrew my body hair for the first time in over 20 years. This is what I learned.
Phil McAuliffe
Oct 13, 20227 min read
204 views
The importance of being open to connection in preventing loneliness: Ed's story
'We take life too seriously. We forget how weak, needy and broken we are.'
Ed Wilson
Sep 22, 20226 min read
195 views
The high cost of success: exploring Craig's loneliness
Does success bring loneliness? For Craig, loneliness is a choice, an illusion and a friendly reminder
Craig Cassey
Sep 1, 20227 min read
162 views
Dating as a gay man: how Angello worked through loneliness to find real connection
How has missing out on dating men when he was younger fed Angello's loneliness?
Angello Floresco
Aug 11, 20227 min read
167 views
Confessions of a social chameleon: how Jesse unintentionally fed his loneliness
We must speak and share our loneliness stories if we're to
de-stigmatise gay loneliness. Here's Jesse's story.
Jesse Elkins
Jul 21, 202210 min read
410 views
Exploring the tough realities of loneliness within gay communities
Let’s explore five truths about gay loneliness and how to not feel lonely.
Phil McAuliffe
Jun 30, 20226 min read
327 views
The dark side of Pride: exploring the loneliness of Pride
June is Pride month. Being gay isn't all rainbows and unicorns, is it?
Phil McAuliffe
Jun 9, 20226 min read
333 views
When hitting rock bottom becomes the foundation for a better you.
Hitting rock bottom is messy.
Rock bottom is a source of authentic connection.
Phil McAuliffe
May 19, 20227 min read
181 views
Porn and you: does it feed your loneliness?
Does your porn use feed your loneliness? Can porn be a tool for connection? Let’s find out
Phil McAuliffe
Apr 28, 20228 min read
151 views
The connection between being gay, negative body image and feelings of loneliness
You’re sexy and your loneliness hopes you don't know it
Phil McAuliffe
Apr 7, 20229 min read
132 views
Is busyness damaging your relationships? Prioritising connection in a busy world
Soul-nourishing connection requires
authentic vulnerability, time and space. Your busyness is killing the connection you need.
Phil McAuliffe
Mar 17, 20228 min read
97 views
The power of letting go: why holding on is holding you back
How does your emotional baggage stop you connecting?
Do you need to be like Elsa and just let it go?
Phil McAuliffe
Feb 17, 20225 min read
94 views
My theme for 2022: Let it happen
I love a good plan, but trusting in it and ‘letting it happen’ is a real challenge for me.
Phil McAuliffe
Feb 3, 20226 min read
73 views
Wrapping up 2021
How has your year of authentic connection been?
Phil McAuliffe
Dec 16, 20215 min read
43 views
How to effectively numb your emotional pain as a gay man
The thoughts and feeling of loneliness are horrible. How do you numb them?
Phil McAuliffe
Dec 2, 20214 min read
88 views
The art of finding true belonging as a gay man in the midst of loneliness
When you feel that you belong, you feel connected. When you don’t, you can feel lonely. Let me share my experience.
Phil McAuliffe
Nov 18, 202111 min read
692 views
The Ultimate Guide to Making Friends as a Gay Man
Making friends is tough. Let me help you with that.
Phil McAuliffe
Nov 4, 20218 min read
8,058 views
How to have kick-ass boundaries
Getting our boundaries right is fucking hard when we're lonely. But they are such a profound gift of self-respect back to ourselves.
Kevin Moran
Oct 21, 20219 min read
134 views
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