How to effectively numb your emotional pain as a gay man
The thoughts and feeling of loneliness are horrible. How do you numb them?
top of page
Phil is here to help you through your loneliness and get the
soul-nourishing connection you need and deserve
Image: smb_creative
THE LONELINESS GUY
blog
Read one, some or binge-read all of the 50+ articles written by Phil and guests to help you feel connected as a gay man.
Search
Phil McAuliffe
- Nov 18, 2021
- 11 min
The art of finding true belonging as a gay man in the midst of loneliness
When you feel that you belong, you feel connected. When you don’t, you can feel lonely. Let me share my experience.
299 views
Phil McAuliffe
- Nov 4, 2021
- 8 min
The Ultimate Guide to Making Friends as a Gay Man
Making friends is tough. Let me help you with that.
2,731 views
Kevin Moran
- Oct 21, 2021
- 9 min
How to have kick-ass boundaries
Getting our boundaries right is fucking hard when we're lonely. But they are such a profound gift of self-respect back to ourselves.
108 views
Justin Oberste MA, AMFT
- Oct 7, 2021
- 9 min
Overcoming the loneliness of change: how Justin found connection during life transitions
Dark nights of the soul are horrible.
And needed.
394 views
Phil McAuliffe
- Sep 23, 2021
- 5 min
2021: Your year of authentic connection - third progress check
How is your year of authentic connection going? Let's check in and find out.
39 views
Andrew Reid
- Sep 9, 2021
- 10 min
The loneliness of being gay in a straight marriage
To be a gay man in a straight marriage is to be disconnected from self.
1,231 views
Phil McAuliffe
- Aug 26, 2021
- 7 min
The pros and cons of using hook-up apps for finding connection
Best advice I’ve ever received about hook-up apps: ‘You will get fucked’
242 views
Phil McAuliffe
- Aug 12, 2021
- 4 min
Why your cracks are sexy
Yes, male asses are beautiful. So is kintsugi.
66 views
Phil McAuliffe
- Jul 29, 2021
- 4 min
The ultimate guide on finding your Prince Charming and living happily ever after
Waiting for your Prince Charming to save you from your loneliness? Wait no more!
162 views
Phil McAuliffe
- Jul 15, 2021
- 5 min
2021: Your year of authentic connection - second progress check
Let's check in to see how your year of authentic connection is going.
44 views
Phil McAuliffe
- Mar 4, 2021
- 4 min
2021 – Your year of authentic connection: first progress check
How is your year of authentic connection progressing?
40 views
Nathan Todd
- Feb 18, 2021
- 6 min
Finding comfort in shedding the labels you wear: Nathan's story will inspire you
What labels are you letting define you?
61 views
Reno
- Feb 4, 2021
- 8 min
The power of vulnerability: Why Reno says it's important to expose yourself to others
'I may destroy me' - Compassionate self-exposure as the path to personal freedom.
193 views
Phil McAuliffe
- Jan 21, 2021
- 5 min
How I build strong connections on a tight budget
Why does the gay lifestyle cost so much money?
96 views
Phil McAuliffe
- Jan 7, 2021
- 7 min
2021 - Your year of authentic connection
Let’s make 2021 your year of authentic connection
51 views
Phil McAuliffe
- Dec 10, 2020
- 6 min
The gift of loneliness: the powerful reframe that feeds connection
Is it time to open the gift of your loneliness this Christmas?
70 views
Phil McAuliffe
- Nov 26, 2020
- 8 min
The importance of true friendship in life for gay men.
We know that friendship is important, but what makes a friendship?
189 views
Phil McAuliffe
- Nov 12, 2020
- 6 min
Discovering the true you: unpacking the question "Who Are You?"
If putting yourself out into the world is the cure to loneliness, who are you?
77 views
Phil McAuliffe
- Oct 29, 2020
- 13 min
The link between shame and loneliness: how I broke the cycle
Shame begets loneliness. Loneliness begets shame. Let’s turn our shame into our ally.
323 views
IN NEED OF
CRISIS SUPPORT?
bottom of page