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Read one, some or binge-read all of the 50+ articles written by Phil and guests to help you feel connected as a gay man.
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Navigating the Holidays: strategies for surviving the festive season
This time of year can be tough.
Your loneliness loves to spoil your joy.
Let's get you through this season.
Phil McAuliffe
Dec 15, 20227 min read
Am I Gay Enough? Exploring the complexities of identity, acceptance and belonging
I've been struggling with this question for a while. I know you have been, too.
Phil McAuliffe
Nov 24, 202210 min read
The dark side of Pride: exploring the loneliness of Pride
June is Pride month. Being gay isn't all rainbows and unicorns, is it?
Phil McAuliffe
Jun 9, 20226 min read
When hitting rock bottom becomes the foundation for a better you.
Hitting rock bottom is messy.
Rock bottom is a source of authentic connection.
Phil McAuliffe
May 19, 20227 min read
Is busyness damaging your relationships? Prioritising connection in a busy world
Soul-nourishing connection requires
authentic vulnerability, time and space. Your busyness is killing the connection you need.
Phil McAuliffe
Mar 17, 20228 min read
My theme for 2022: Let it happen
I love a good plan, but trusting in it and ‘letting it happen’ is a real challenge for me.
Phil McAuliffe
Feb 3, 20226 min read
How to effectively numb your emotional pain as a gay man
The thoughts and feeling of loneliness are horrible. How do you numb them?
Phil McAuliffe
Dec 2, 20214 min read
The art of finding true belonging as a gay man in the midst of loneliness
When you feel that you belong, you feel connected. When you don’t, you can feel lonely. Let me share my experience.
Phil McAuliffe
Nov 18, 202111 min read
The Ultimate Guide to Making Friends as a Gay Man
Making friends is tough. Let me help you with that.
Phil McAuliffe
Nov 4, 20218 min read
How to have kick-ass boundaries
Getting our boundaries right is fucking hard when we're lonely. But they are such a profound gift of self-respect back to ourselves.
Kevin Moran
Oct 21, 20219 min read
Overcoming the loneliness of change: how Justin found connection during life transitions
Dark nights of the soul are horrible.
And needed.
Justin Oberste MA, AMFT
Oct 7, 20219 min read
2021: Your year of authentic connection - third progress check
How is your year of authentic connection going? Let's check in and find out.
Phil McAuliffe
Sep 23, 20215 min read
The loneliness of being gay in a straight marriage
To be a gay man in a straight marriage is to be disconnected from self.
Andrew Reid
Sep 9, 202110 min read
The pros and cons of using hook-up apps for finding connection
Best advice I’ve ever received about hook-up apps: ‘You will get fucked’
Phil McAuliffe
Aug 26, 20217 min read
Why your cracks are sexy
Yes, male asses are beautiful. So is kintsugi.
Phil McAuliffe
Aug 12, 20214 min read
The ultimate guide on finding your Prince Charming and living happily ever after
Waiting for your Prince Charming to save you from your loneliness? Wait no more!
Phil McAuliffe
Jul 29, 20214 min read
2021 – Your year of authentic connection: first progress check
How is your year of authentic connection progressing?
Phil McAuliffe
Mar 4, 20214 min read
Finding comfort in shedding the labels you wear: Nathan's story will inspire you
What labels are you letting define you?
Nathan Todd
Feb 18, 20216 min read
The gift of loneliness: the powerful reframe that feeds connection
Is it time to open the gift of your loneliness this Christmas?
Phil McAuliffe
Dec 10, 20206 min read
Discovering the true you: unpacking the question "Who Are You?"
If putting yourself out into the world is the cure to loneliness, who are you?
Phil McAuliffe
Nov 12, 20206 min read
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