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Read one, some or binge-read all of the 50+ articles written by Phil and guests to help you feel connected as a gay man.
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Breaking the stigma: navigating loneliness and learning to thrive
Times of change are when we most feel lonely. This includes me.
Phil McAuliffe
Apr 1, 20237 min read
134 views
Finding my place: how Craig navigates life as a Christian and gay man
Is there a bigger source of loneliness-inducing trauma in our community than religious trauma? This is Craig's story.
Craig Watson
Mar 4, 20239 min read
790 views
The lonely side of gay: the 5 symptoms you shouldn't ignore
I see 5 common symptoms of gay loneliness.
Do you have any of them?
Phil McAuliffe
Feb 4, 20238 min read
1,091 views
Am I Gay Enough? Exploring the complexities of identity, acceptance and belonging
I've been struggling with this question for a while. I know you have been, too.
Phil McAuliffe
Nov 24, 202210 min read
218 views
The Hairy Truth: discovering lessons in regrowing my body hair
I regrew my body hair for the first time in over 20 years. This is what I learned.
Phil McAuliffe
Oct 13, 20227 min read
201 views
The importance of being open to connection in preventing loneliness: Ed's story
'We take life too seriously. We forget how weak, needy and broken we are.'
Ed Wilson
Sep 22, 20226 min read
189 views
The high cost of success: exploring Craig's loneliness
Does success bring loneliness? For Craig, loneliness is a choice, an illusion and a friendly reminder
Craig Cassey
Sep 1, 20227 min read
160 views
Confessions of a social chameleon: how Jesse unintentionally fed his loneliness
We must speak and share our loneliness stories if we're to
de-stigmatise gay loneliness. Here's Jesse's story.
Jesse Elkins
Jul 21, 202210 min read
404 views
When hitting rock bottom becomes the foundation for a better you.
Hitting rock bottom is messy.
Rock bottom is a source of authentic connection.
Phil McAuliffe
May 19, 20227 min read
169 views
Porn and you: does it feed your loneliness?
Does your porn use feed your loneliness? Can porn be a tool for connection? Let’s find out
Phil McAuliffe
Apr 28, 20228 min read
145 views
The connection between being gay, negative body image and feelings of loneliness
You’re sexy and your loneliness hopes you don't know it
Phil McAuliffe
Apr 7, 20229 min read
129 views
Is busyness damaging your relationships? Prioritising connection in a busy world
Soul-nourishing connection requires
authentic vulnerability, time and space. Your busyness is killing the connection you need.
Phil McAuliffe
Mar 17, 20228 min read
96 views
The power of letting go: why holding on is holding you back
How does your emotional baggage stop you connecting?
Do you need to be like Elsa and just let it go?
Phil McAuliffe
Feb 17, 20225 min read
94 views
My theme for 2022: Let it happen
I love a good plan, but trusting in it and ‘letting it happen’ is a real challenge for me.
Phil McAuliffe
Feb 3, 20226 min read
73 views
Wrapping up 2021
How has your year of authentic connection been?
Phil McAuliffe
Dec 16, 20215 min read
43 views
The Ultimate Guide to Making Friends as a Gay Man
Making friends is tough. Let me help you with that.
Phil McAuliffe
Nov 4, 20218 min read
7,153 views
How to have kick-ass boundaries
Getting our boundaries right is fucking hard when we're lonely. But they are such a profound gift of self-respect back to ourselves.
Kevin Moran
Oct 21, 20219 min read
130 views
The loneliness of being gay in a straight marriage
To be a gay man in a straight marriage is to be disconnected from self.
Andrew Reid
Sep 9, 202110 min read
1,343 views
The pros and cons of using hook-up apps for finding connection
Best advice I’ve ever received about hook-up apps: ‘You will get fucked’
Phil McAuliffe
Aug 26, 20217 min read
250 views
Why your cracks are sexy
Yes, male asses are beautiful. So is kintsugi.
Phil McAuliffe
Aug 12, 20214 min read
72 views
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