I'm here to help you through your loneliness and getting the authentic connection you need and deserve.

Here, we de-stigmatise gay loneliness and promote authentic connection for gay men globally.

Here, we support you - you beautiful gay man - through your loneliness.

I'm building a place for you - as a gay man experiencing loneliness - to come and get the support you need, when you need it, wherever you are in the world - online and in your community. 

I envision a society where we can freely talk about feelings of loneliness without shame, embarrassment or judgement - without stigma - and know how to get the type of authentic connection we need as humans.

My 1-on-1 mentoring services

Have me by right by your side as we work through your loneliness and begin to take steps towards getting the authentic connection you need and deserve.

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Join a Connection Support group call

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Come and join five other gay men experiencing loneliness in supportive Connection Support group calls hosted by Phil.

'Connection over Coffee' podcast

Let me buy you a coffee then join me and my guests for a real conversation designed to support you and other gay men experiencing loneliness.

Don't have much time? I got you. Listen to a quick Connection Espresso.

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Hi, I'm Phil.

I'm Phil McAuliffe. That's me in the picture. I'm The Loneliness Guy.

Are you a gay man who's exploring - or admits - that you may be lonely by coming here? Well done. I'm proud of you. Great things can happen from here.

Join me as we explore gay loneliness and the importance of authentic connection to self, to others and to our communities. This is how we work through our feelings of loneliness and needing more real connection in our lives.

Get to know me, my services, read a blog or listen to the podcast are great places to get started.

Thanks for being here. Now, let's get on to de-stigmatising gay loneliness. Let's get you the help and support you need and deserve.

~ Phil

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Connection is the antidote to loneliness.

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As a premium member, you:

  • access an exclusive lounge on Facebook

  • can join monthly Zoom calls for a chat and support

  • chat with, ask questions to, and engage with me in the privacy of that lounge

  • connect with, and get supported by, other gay men who are working through the thoughts and feelings of loneliness in a kind, supportive - and private - environment.

  • are the first to be told of new blog and podcast content.

The Loneliness Guy around the web

I love spreading messages about the importance of de-stigmatising gay loneliness and promoting authentic connection for gay men globally.

Here are some podcasts I've appeared on and articles I've written.

The Roundtable - Australian Broadcasting Corporation Radio National
The Roundtable - Australian Broadcasting Corporation Radio National

I participated on The Roundtable with other loneliness experts. The Roundtable is a show on the Australian Broadcasting Corporation's Radio National every Sunday morning.

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Rising Phoenix
Rising Phoenix

I appeared on Michael Rhodes' podcast on helping men through divorce. It was a fantastic - and real - conversation.

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FUSE Magazine
FUSE Magazine

I wrote an article on how your loneliness is a gift for a fantastic local LGBTIQ+ magazine here in Canberra. Go read it!

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Gay Men Going Deeper
Gay Men Going Deeper

I came out later in life. Calan Breckon from the Gay Men's Brotherhood asked me to join a panel of other beautiful men who also came out later in life to talk about it. Watch this episode of Gay Men Going Deeper here

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Everyday Legends with Mike Campbell
Everyday Legends with Mike Campbell

My friend Mike Campbell wanted to know the cure for loneliness. So I shared it with him. Come and join us for this chat and find out what cures loneliness!

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Gay Men Going Deeper
Gay Men Going Deeper

Join my conversation about loneliness and belonging with my friend Michael DiIorio from the Gay Men's Brotherhood

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Proud To Be Out
Proud To Be Out

Listen to my conversation with Alexander Gerard about overcoming loneliness and being a happy gay man

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How my work helps gay men experiencing loneliness.
Beautiful gay men, just like you.

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Boy, am I glad I found this man.

Through Phil’s work alone, I have been able to realise my loneliness and, most importantly, say it out loud to myself and to the people who matter in my life - a major stepping stone in self-acceptance and self-discovery which has helped me to lead a more authentic life where I understand more what I as a human truly need.

G. London UK