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Phil is here to help you through your loneliness and get the

soul-nourishing connection you need and deserve

Here, we de-stigmatise gay loneliness and help you feel authentic connection.
Here, we guide and support you through your loneliness.

This is a place for you - a gay man experiencing loneliness - to come and get the support you need, when you need it, wherever you are in the world.


We envision a society where we can freely talk about feelings of loneliness without shame, embarrassment or judgement - without stigma - and know how to get the type of authentic connection we need as gay men.

Our connection products

You feeling connected starts here

We have a range of products to have you feeling connected as you live your life.
You're worthy of that.


Read one, some or read all of the 50+ articles written to help you feel connected as a gay man.

connection over coffee

Join Phil and his guests for real conversations that support you through loneliness and have you feeling more authentically connected.


We've videos to give you some excellent ideas to inspire you so you can feel soul-nourishing connection during common times of change - including when in the closet and after coming out.

starter course

It's time to get your Connection Plan.

It's your plan to move through a loneliness experience whenever you feel it. You'll get back on your connection path quickly with your own guide.    

1:1 mentoring

Here's the place where you get to have Phil - a global loneliness expert and thought leader who's also a gay man - in your corner as your mentor.

Our connection services

Let's inspire LGBTIQA+ connection here

Our services are designed to support you in your work supporting LGBTIQA+ humans in your audience, workplaces and communities.

They're worthy of that.

and speaking

Phil serves, supports, challenges and inspires your audience on the topic of loneliness, social connection while living life.
Have Phil speak in your workplace, at your conference, event or on an episode of your podcast.


You want all the humans in your workplace to thrive.


You want your workplace to be a space in which humans feel psychologically safe and able to contribute their skills, wisdom and expertise. 

We've heard you.


Phil is a global loneliness expert, thought leader and an affable and relatable speaker on loneliness.


He is available to speak to the media on issues relating to loneliness, connection and what it can mean to be a gay human - indeed, a human - living life.

looking for connection and loneliness services for LGBTIQA+ and non-LGBTIQA+ humans?

We've got you


Phil McAuliffe The Loneliness Guy Gay Loneliness

I'm Phil McAuliffe. That's me in the picture. I'm The Loneliness Guy.


I created The Loneliness Guy in 2020 (and before that, The Lonely Diplomat in 2018) after I realised I was lonely as I approached my 40s. I googled for the answers but the only help provided seemed inadequate or only for old people. I felt that I could do something to support other gay and queer men like me. I created the resource and support I wish I had. 

Are you a gay man who's exploring - or admits - that you may be lonely by coming here? Well done. I'm proud of you. I'm here to tell you that great things can happen from here.

Join me as we explore loneliness and the importance of authentic connection to self, to others and to our communities. This is how we work through our feelings of loneliness and needing more real connection in our lives.

Get to know me, my services or listen to the podcast are great places to get started.

Thanks for being here. Now, let's get on to de-stigmatising gay loneliness. Let's get you the help and support you need and deserve.

~ Phil

previous speaking events

October 2023

Phil McAuliffe - The Loneliness Guy - loneliness - gay - gay loneliness - connection - human connection - humans connecting - feeling lonely - keynote - speaker - coffee - social health - social wellness
Phil McAuliffe - loneliness - human connection - Canberra - Australia - keynote speaker - The Loneliness Guy

Phil was a keynote speaker at the National Association of Women in Construction (ACT Chapter)'s Building Wellness Breakfast at the National Gallery of Australia on Tuesday 10 October 2023 for World Mental Health Day.

Phil spoke on the loneliness epidemic and sharing ways to combat it.

National Association of Women in Construction (NAWIC) is a not-for-profit, peak body championing the diverse collective of great people doing great work in construction throughout Australia. NAWIC provides a forum for its members to meet and exchange information, ideas and solutions.

Its members can expand personal and business networks, maintain awareness of industry developments, improve skills and knowledge and make a contribution to other women in the construction industry within Australia.

Phil McAuliffe - loneliness - human connection - Canberra - Australia - keynote speaker - The Loneliness Guy

previous media appearances

June 2023

On Tuesday 6 June 2023, Phil shared some of his experiences of loneliness throughout his life as part of the 'Alone' episode of SBS' Insight program in Australia.

Phil also shared some of the wisdom he'd learned after getting support and beginning to listen to his loneliness and what it was telling him about the connection he was missing.

This included sharing some of his story of how loneliness influenced him coming out of the closet to live life as a proud gay man and how he treats loneliness now.

The Loneliness Guy - Phil McAuliffe - gay - gay loneliness - SBS - Insight - Alone
The Loneliness Guy - Phil McAuliffe - gay loneliness - Insight - SBS Australia - loneliness - gay loneliness - Alone
The Loneliness Guy - Phil McAuliffe - gay loneliness - Insight - SBS Australia - loneliness - gay loneliness - alone

Phil and his work
in the media

As a global loneliness thought leader, Phil loves spreading messages de-stigmatising loneliness and promoting authentic connection for gay men globally.

Here are some media appearances and programs Phil's appeared on and articles he's written.

How Phil's work helps humans
experiencing loneliness.

Phil McAuliffe The Loneliness Guy gay loneliness testimonials

Boy, am I glad I found this man.

Through Phil’s work alone, I have been able to realise my loneliness and, most importantly, say it out loud to myself and to the people who matter in my life - a major stepping stone in self-acceptance and self-discovery which has helped me to lead a more authentic life where I understand more what I as a human truly need.

G. London UK

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