Welcome to
The Loneliness Guy
This is a place where we de-stigmatise loneliness and promote authentic connection for gay men globally.
I'm Phil McAuliffe. That's me in the picture. I'm The Loneliness Guy.
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Are you a gay man who's exploring - or admits - that you may be lonely by coming here? Well done. I'm proud of you. Great things can happen from here.
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I realised that I was lonely as I neared my 40th birthday. This was tough to accept at first. Who wants to admit that they're lonely? I had a family and friends who loved me and was successful at work. I desperately did not want to be lonely.
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I learned that I wore a mask of competence and good humour. I was the nice guy. Underneath the mask I was scared of being seen, being judged and rejection. Does this sound familiar to you?
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Admitting that I was lonely was the first step to reclaiming myself.
I got help to take my mask off and get to know the real, authentic me: including accepting my sexuality. It was hard, but I'm now 100 per cent me.
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Do you feel like you're wearing a mask and that life is happening to you? Are you the Nice Guy? Do you feel like a fraud? Do you fear judgement and rejection? Do you desperately want to be seen and loved as yourself but are scared and don't know how to make lasting changes in your life?
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You've come to the right place. You're no longer alone.
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Join me as we explore the importance of authentic connection to self, to others and to our communities as a way to work through our feelings of loneliness and needing more real connection in our lives.
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Want to get started? Read 'Why loneliness? Why me?' and get to know me at About Phil.
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Be awesome
~ Phil
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Boy, am I glad I found this man.
Through Phil’s work alone, I have been able to realise my loneliness and, most importantly, say it out loud to myself and to the people who matter in my life - a major stepping stone in self-acceptance and self-discovery which has helped me to lead a more authentic life where I understand more what I as a human truly need.
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