What’s holding you back from getting the soul-nourishing connection you know you need and deserve? Is it your emotional baggage stopping you connecting? Do you need to be like Elsa and just let it go? Let’s answer those questions together in this episode of my podcast for gay men ‘Connection over Coffee with The Loneliness Guy’. Share in the vision for The Loneliness Guy: www.thelonelinessguy.com/invest Buy me a coffee to say thanks for the episode: https://bit.ly/3nDMrZm Links Website: www.thelonelinessguy.com Join the mailing list: www.thelonelinessguy.com/subscribe Join the premium connection group on FB (it’s free!): www.facebook.com/groups/824068758013990 Read ‘What are you holding on to?’: https://bit.ly/3K1dRkb Michael DiIorio’s work: www.wellismo.com Need some help through your loneliness?: www.thelonelinessguy.com/help Contact me: connect@thelonelinessguy.com Sounds recorded with permission at Prefab Eatery, Wellington: www.pre-fab.co.nz

We know how amazing things can be when we relax and accept what’s been offered us. Yes, like sex. So why do I feel like I’m not worthy of receiving the same help that I love to provide others? Join with me to see how I’m letting things happen in 2022 in this episode of my podcast for gay men ‘Connection over Coffee with The Loneliness Guy’. Share in the vision for The Loneliness Guy: www.thelonelinessguy.com/invest Buy me a coffee to say thanks for the episode: https://bit.ly/3nDMrZm Links Website: www.thelonelinessguy.com Join the mailing list and community: www.thelonelinessguy.com/subscribe Read ‘Let it happen’: https://bit.ly/3GsZSkP Mike Campbell’s work: www.mikecampbell.com.au Need some help through your loneliness?: www.thelonelinessguy.com/help Contact me: connect@thelonelinessguy.com

A year ago, I invited you to join with me to make 2021 your year of authentic connection. Now that 2021 is almost done, it’s time to see how we’ve done connection in 2021: what we’ve learned about ourselves and the type of connection we need and the connection we’re getting. Join with me in wrapping up 2021 in this episode of my podcast for gay men ‘Connection over Coffee with The Loneliness Guy’. Share in the vision for The Loneliness Guy: www.thelonelinessguy.com/invest Buy me a coffee to say thanks for the episode: https://bit.ly/3nDMrZm Links Website: www.thelonelinessguy.com Join the mailing list and community: www.thelonelinessguy.com/subscribe Read ‘Wrapping up 2021’: https://bit.ly/3e6qcFI Kevin Moran’s work: www.kevincmoran.com Need some help through your loneliness?: www.thelonelinessguy.com/help Contact me: connect@thelonelinessguy.com Sounds recorded with permission at Prefab Eatery, Wellington: www.pre-fab.co.nz

How do you avoid and numb uncomfortable thoughts and feelings? How have you avoided and numbed your thoughts and feelings of loneliness, not belonging or being alone? Let’s talk about numbing and loneliness over a coffee with my friend Justin Oberste (@justinoberste) in this episode of my podcast for gay men. The conversation follows the article I published last week about paying attention to how we numb (see link). Let me get you a coffee and let’s have a real chat. About Justin: Justin Oberste is an associate psychotherapist specialising in LGBTQ+ Affirmative Psychology and Religious Trauma Therapy, and is currently training to become a Sex Therapist. Justin received his Masters in Clinical Psychology from Antioch University Los Angeles, and has recently begun full-time private practive work with Dr Chris Donaghue, author of 'Rebel Love' and 'Sex Outside The Lines' and the host of the radio show 'Loveline'. Originally from Power Springs, Georgia, Justin now resides in Santa Barbara, California. IG: @justinoberste Share in the vision for The Loneliness Guy: www.thelonelinessguy.com/invest Buy me a coffee to say thanks for the episode: https://bit.ly/3nDMrZm Links Website: www.thelonelinessguy.com Join the mailing list and community: www.thelonelinessguy.com/subscribe Read ‘How do you numb?’: https://bit.ly/3rxVDAJ Michael DiIorio’s work: www.wellismo.com Need some help through your loneliness?: www.thelonelinessguy.com/help Contact me: connect@thelonelinessguy.com Sounds recorded with permission at Prefab Eatery, Wellington: www.pre-fab.co.nz

We can spend our lives editing and refining ourselves as we hustle to fit in and feel like we belong, especially as those who – perhaps due to our sexuality – never really feel like we fit in. I contend that this hustle disconnects from ourselves and a reason why we can feel so lonely even when we’re surrounded by people. It follows the article I published last week about belonging and loneliness (see link). Let me get you a coffee and let’s have a real chat. Share in the vision for The Loneliness Guy: www.thelonelinessguy.com/invest Buy me a coffee to say thanks for the episode: https://bit.ly/3nDMrZm Links Website: www.thelonelinessguy.com Join the mailing list and community: www.thelonelinessguy.com/subscribe Read ‘Belonging and loneliness’: https://bit.ly/3oP7zLf Mike Campbell’s work: www.mikecampbell.com.au Need some help through your loneliness?: www.thelonelinessguy.com/help Contact me: connect@thelonelinessguy.com Sounds recorded with permission at Prefab Eatery, Wellington: www.pre-fab.co.nz

In this episode of my podcast for gay men experiencing loneliness, I have a chat about how we can make friends as gay men. It follows the article I published (see link below) in which I asked to important questions amongst the other tips and suggestions: - do you find it hard to make gay friends without having sex with them first? and - are you good friend material right now? Let me get you a coffee and let’s talk about that. Links Website: www.thelonelinessguy.com Join the mailing list and community: www.thelonelinessguy.com/subscribe Read ‘How to make friends as a gay man’: https://bit.ly/3BYN3wd Need some help through your loneliness?: www.thelonelinessguy.com/help Contact me: connect@thelonelinessguy.com Sounds recorded with permission at Prefab Eatery, Wellington: www.pre-fab.co.nz

In this episode of my podcast for gay men experiencing loneliness, I have a coffee with my friend Kevin Moran. Kevin is passionate about the subject of boundaries and shared his wisdom and insight with us through my blog last week (see link below). Kevin loves talking about the importance of boundaries – knowing them and maintaining them – through his work. This love is evident in the conversation you’re about to join. I know you’re about to feel seen by his words and beautiful insight. You’ll also be challenged to review, build and maintain healthy boundaries as you work through your loneliness and put your authentic self into the world as you connect with your self, those most important to you and to your community. Let me get you a coffee and let’s talk about that with Kevin. About Kevin: Kevin is a Hawai’i-based queer health and wellness coach, who provides preventative mental wellness services to the LGBTQIA+ community, helping to transform the ways in which we see ourselves, our loved ones, and our communities. IG: @kmorancoaching Kevin’s podcast: @theunitedoutsiders Links Website: www.thelonelinessguy.com Join the mailing list and community: www.thelonelinessguy.com/subscribe Read ‘How to have kick-ass boundaries – with Kevin Moran’: https://bit.ly/3ppSVvW Need some help through your loneliness?: www.thelonelinessguy.com/help Contact me: connect@thelonelinessguy.com Sounds recorded with permission at Prefab Eatery, Wellington: www.pre-fab.co.nz

In this episode of my podcast for gay men experiencing loneliness, I have a coffee with my friend Justin Oberste who shared his beautiful reflections on the loneliness of change on my blog last week. Change can be hard. We avoid it. We try to do everything in our power to ignore it. We numb ourselves. Think for a moment how you wrestle within yourself when you feel pulled to make change: changing jobs, ending a relationship or indeed, coming out. However we numb, ignore or deny, sooner or later, we find ourselves back at the same decision point. That point can be lonely. We wrestle with some uncomfortable thoughts and feelings. We have a dark night of the soul. Let me get you a coffee and let’s talk about that with Justin. About Justin: Justin Oberste is an associate psychotherapist specialising in LGBTQ+ Affirmative Psychology and Religious Trauma Therapy, and is currently training to become a Sex Therapist. Justin received his Masters in Clinical Psychology from Antioch University Los Angeles, and has recently begun full-time private practive work with Dr Chris Donaghue, author of 'Rebel Love' and 'Sex Outside The Lines' and the host of the radio show 'Loveline'. Originally from Power Springs, Georgia, Justin now resides in Santa Barbara, California. IG: @justinoberste Links Website: www.thelonelinessguy.com Join the community: www.thelonelinessguy.com/subscribe Read ‘The loneliness of change – by Justin Oberste’: https://bit.ly/3ldXGq2 Join us on YouTube: https://bit.ly/3l35iMh Need some help through your loneliness?: www.thelonelinessguy.com/help Contact me: connect@thelonelinessguy.com Sounds recorded with permission at Prefab Eatery, Wellington: www.pre-fab.co.nz

It’s now time to check in with each other and reflect on how we’ve been DOING authentic connection to our selves, to those most important to us and to our communities so far in 2021. After all, wishing, hoping and praying for someone to fix our loneliness doesn’t actually help us move past our loneliness. We only move past our loneliness when we decide to DO authentic connection. And yes, this is terrifying. Let’s take a few moments to check in with each other to see how we’re going towards feeling connected to our authentic selves, those most important to us and to our communities. I’ll do a check in too. Let me get you a coffee and come and join me now for a chat. Links Website: www.thelonelinessguy.com Join the community: www.thelonelinessguy.com/subscribe Read ‘2021: Your year of authentic connection – progress check 3’: https://bit.ly/39yDqZH Join me on YouTube: https://bit.ly/3l35iMh Need some help through your loneliness?: www.thelonelinessguy.com/help Contact me: connect@thelonelinessguy.com

The loneliness that comes from the disconnection from self when we’re gay and in a straight marriage is awful. It’s the loneliness that comes from being disconnected from our authentic selves. My friend Andrew Reid has courageously shared his story of being gay while married to a woman. It’s a story of wishing his gay away and throwing himself into work and working out to feel seen, heard and that he belonged. I know that Andrew’s story will help others, for I know it would have helped me when I was in his situation myself. Let me buy you a coffee and come and join us for a beautiful and real chat. About Andrew Andrew is a man making his way through life in a regional city in the Australian state of Victoria. He’s the father of three young humans, owns his own business, loves keeping fit and came out as gay after a 14-year marriage to a woman. Instagram: @reiddrew Links Website: www.thelonelinessguy.com Join the community: www.thelonelinessguy.com/subscribe Read ‘The loneliness of being gay in a straight relationship – with Andrew Reid’: https://bit.ly/3toBJHn Need some help through your loneliness?: www.thelonelinessguy.com/help Contact me: connect@thelonelinessguy.com Sounds recorded with permission at Prefab Eatery, Wellington: www.pre-fab.co.nz

Press play right now and join Michael DiIorio and me for our chat about hook-up apps – why we love them and why we love to hate them. You’ll want to join us for this fun conversation about what we’ve learned about ourselves, others and our communities through these apps. You’ll definitely want to listen to the wisdom and insight Michael brings to the topic and how it’s great to want to have sex, and how to use the apps as a tool for connection. Let me buy you a coffee and come and join us for a chat. About Michael Michael is a certified life & wellness coach and founder of Wellismo, a wellness blog that intersects personal development and sexuality. As a coach, he enables clients to achieve their goals and create a future they're excited for. Website: www.wellismo.com Instagram: @wellismo_coach Links Website: www.thelonelinessguy.com Join the community: www.thelonelinessguy.com/subscribe Read ‘Hook-up apps’: https://bit.ly/3BjXOto Join me on YouTube: https://bit.ly/3l35iMh Need some help through your loneliness?: www.thelonelinessguy.com/help Contact me: connect@thelonelinessguy.com

It’s been a while since episodes, hasn’t it? I’m really keen to see how 2021 has been your year of authentic connection so far. Let’s take a few moments to check in with each other to see how we’re going towards feeling connected to our authentic selves, those most important to us and to our communities. I’ll do a check in too. Let me get you a coffee and come and join me now for a chat. Links Website: www.thelonelinessguy.com Join the community: www.thelonelinessguy.com/subscribe Read ‘2021: Your year of authentic connection – progress check 2’: https://bit.ly/2VIwzJr Watch recent conversations: 'Everyday Legends' - https://youtu.be/Gd8l_TF7zlE 'Gay Men Going Deeper' - https://youtu.be/RUVaaWyE1dw Need some help through your loneliness?: www.thelonelinessguy.com/help Contact me: connect@thelonelinessguy.com Sounds recorded with permission at Prefab Eatery, Wellington: www.pre-fab.co.nz

How are you DOING connection in 2021 so far? Are you smashing it? Are you doing it in fits and starts? Or are there more fits than starts? Let’s take a few moments to check in with each other to see how you’re going towards feeling connected to your authentic self, those most important to you and to your communities. I’ll go first. Let me get you a coffee and come and join me now for a chat. Links Website: www.thelonelinessguy.com Join the community: www.thelonelinessguy.com/subscribe Read ‘2021: Your year of authentic connection – progress check 1’: https://bit.ly/3bXskOr Need some help through your loneliness?: www.thelonelinessguy.com/help Contact me: connect@thelonelinessguy.com Sounds recorded with permission at Prefab Eatery, Wellington: www.pre-fab.co.nz

This episode of Connection over Coffee is so full of wit and wisdom it’s hard to know where to begin. First, Nathan is The Loneliness Coach and his work focuses on the power of the labels we wear – both those that we put on ourselves and those put on us by others – and how they can lead us to feeling lonely. Secondly, Nathan has some super practical and approachable ways to help us to recognise the power of these labels and to help us get the connection we need in life. Let me get you a coffee and come and join us now for a chat. About Nathan Nathan Todd is the founder of No Label Defines Me Coaching. Nathan’s work primarily focuses on loneliness, labels, and disabilities. Find Nathan at: Clubhouse: realnathantodd Instagram: @therealnathantodd Facebook: The Loneliness Coach Links Website: www.thelonelinessguy.com Join the community: www.thelonelinessguy.com/subscribe Read ‘The labels we wear – by Nathan Todd: https://bit.ly/3pxCBpk Need some help through your loneliness?: www.thelonelinessguy.com/help Contact me: connect@thelonelinessguy.com Sounds recorded with permission at Prefab Eatery, Wellington: www.pre-fab.co.nz

It’s hard to describe this must-listen episode. It’s soul-nourishing. It’s funny. It’s ripe and delicious. It’s so, well, Reno. Join me and Reno for a coffee and a chat in this episode of Connection over Coffee with The Loneliness Guy. Get settled in for a deep, real chat about courage and how we need to be courageous to be who we are and get the authentic connection we need. It’s a beautiful thing. About Reno Reno occasionally refers to himself as a “Star”, an “Inspirer”, “Community Leader”, and a “Spiritual Life & Business Facilitator” – if Oprah, Lewis Howes, and Ru Paul had a baby, he’d be it. It’s his way of owning the fact trying to box and label himself just doesn’t work for him. It’s also his way of painting a picture of what he does… In a way, he gets paid to play, and to be him. Find Reno at: Website: www.itjustgotreno.com Email: itjustgotreno@gmail.com Instagram: @itjustgotreno Links Website: www.thelonelinessguy.com Join the community: www.thelonelinessguy.com/subscribe Read ‘[BLOG]’: [LINK] Need some help through your loneliness?: www.thelonelinessguy.com/help Contact me: connect@thelonelinessguy.com Sounds recorded with permission at Prefab Eatery, Wellington: www.pre-fab.co.nz

Why does everything about connection in the gay world seem to involve money? How do you do connection when you don’t have much money? Join me in this episode of Connection over Coffee with The Loneliness Guy and let’s have a chat about how we connect when money is scarce. Links Website: www.thelonelinessguy.com Join the community: www.thelonelinessguy.com/subscribe Read ‘Connection on a budget’: https://bit.ly/2Mdl1Jx Need some help through your loneliness?: www.thelonelinessguy.com/help Contact me: connect@thelonelinessguy.com Sounds recorded with permission at Prefab Eatery, Wellington: www.pre-fab.co.nz

Are you ready to move beyond your loneliness and join me in doing authentic connection in 2021? In 2020, much of my work focused on loneliness: what it is, what it physically, mentally and emotionally does to us gay men, how it makes us behave and how to recognise and accept it. Loneliness is an emotion we’re meant to feel for a short time. It’s not meant to be a permanent state, but so many gay men say that they’re almost always lonely. Join me in this episode of Connection over Coffee with The Loneliness Guy and let’s get you that authentic connection you need and deserve. Links Website: www.thelonelinessguy.com Join the community: www.thelonelinessguy.com/subscribe Read ‘2021: Your year of authentic connection’: https://bit.ly/2Ls3tZs Need some help through your loneliness?: www.thelonelinessguy.com/help Contact me: connect@thelonelinessguy.com

It’s Christmas. Unlike years past, this Christmas doesn’t have the parties, the merriment and physical togetherness. In their absence we can be confronted with the present under the tree that we’ve been ignoring and don’t want: our loneliness. It’s time to accept the gift of your loneliness and listen to what it’s telling you about your need for real, authentic connection. Yes, it’s scary, but you’re not opening your gift alone. Join me and my friend Steve Seidel for an important chat in this episode of Connection over Coffee with The Loneliness Guy. Let’s open the gift of your loneliness together. About Steve Steve grew up as a very chubby gay boy with buckteeth in Kansas, America’s heartland and the home of Dorothy and The Wizard of Oz. He eventually found his way to Colorado State University and studied exercise physiology. It’s pretty safe to say that over the past 25 years he’s done a little bit of everything. But the most important thing he’s done over the years is help thousands of people lead healthier, happier and more active lives. Website: www.stevenseidel.com Instagram: @steveseidelwellness Links Website: www.thelonelinessguy.com Join the discussion in the premium subscriber lounge. Subscribe and stay connected: www.thelonelinessguy.com/subscribe Read ‘The gift of loneliness’: https://bit.ly/39Ww6YZ Need some help through your loneliness?: www.thelonelinessguy.com/help Contact me: connect@thelonelinessguy.com Sounds recorded with permission at Prefab Eatery, Wellington: www.pre-fab.co.nz